How to Build Healthy, Connected ADHD Relationships with Guest Kristen Carder

Join me Nov 2-4 (10-11am MDT) for a 3-day workshop for moms (and dads) with ADHD who want to plan the holidays calmly instead of scrambling. We’ll find your seasonal delights, sort and schedule them, and protect them with a plan. Body doubling, accountability, and real-time support included. Do the holidays YOUR WAY! A value of $600 for only $37! Sign up for The HOLIDAY GAME PLAN here: kamdenadhdcoaching.com/holidays _________________________________________ What if the relationships that exhaust you aren’t a sign you’re failing, but a sign you’ve been giving everyone the same seat at the table? Let's talk with Kristen Carder about her new book, You Are Not In Trouble and find out why improving your relationships may be the most overlooked key to productivity with ADHD. In this episode: Why childhood experiences can “form or deform” our adult relationships, and what a survey of 2,165 adults with ADHD revealed Why parents only need to get it right about 30 to 50 percent of the time, and why repair matters more than perfection How to stop gaslighting yourself and start believing the “ouch” Kristen’s four tiers of relationships, from the few people who are truly safe to the ones you’ve quietly voted off the island How to release the pressure of treating everyone the same, and why you can still see people as children of God without giving them access to your heart 00:00 Welcome to Busy Brained Saint 00:30 Kristen Returns and New Book 02:03 Why This Book Now 03:31 Relationships Drive Productivity 06:47 Science First Foundation 09:25 Childhood Wounds and ADHD 11:19 Parenting Hope and Repair 16:25 Start With Self Trust 18:11 Stop Self Gaslighting 22:53 Prioritize Relationships by Tiers 27:16 Tier Two Reality Check 29:20 Tier Three Pressure Relief 31:18 Doctor Office Boundary Story 34:22 Tier Four Voted Off 37:22 DARVO And Manipulation 41:42 Transactional Vs Parasitic 42:49 Power Dynamics In Roles 47:17 Boundaries That Build Trust 48:16 Book Details And Farewell