What Does It Cost to Keep Saying It’s Not the Right Time? #TheBraveManProject

"It's not the right time." How many times have you said that? Here's the sum you're running in your head, and why it always comes out the same. The free worksheet, Where You Stand: https://hamishniven.com/where-you-stand November 2018, Cape Town. I was a successful photographer, working barefoot in the sunshine. The marriage had gone quiet, and there were eight bottle stores on the way home. From the outside, I had everything together. On the inside... Then I sat down with one sheet of paper and wrote one line. Five words I had never said, even to myself. That sheet is now called Where You Stand. This video is about the sum you run in your head, why it is rigged, and the ten minutes that show you where you stand. WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO Why "it's not the right time" sounds like common sense, and what it is really doing The pain of staying against the pain of changing, and why the sum in your head is rigged The bill that never arrives, and where you already feel it in your body CHAPTERS 0:00 It's not the right time 1:37 You're running a sum 3:10 Nobody ever sees it 4:33 Barefoot in Cape Town 6:33 Everything to lose 8:57 The bill that never arrives 10:54 Fill it in by hand FROM THE VIDEO "It does not sound like fear. It sounds like good common sense." "The pain is becoming more and more unbearable. But it is not yet more painful than the thought of changing." "It's not weakness. I'm not gonna call it weakness. It's a sum." "Today is the bill that never arrives." "You are comparing a well written, well thumbed list with something brand new, something you don't know." THE MEN IN THIS VIDEO Tom Morgan, episode 15: I Was Barely 40, Rich, and Asking Is This All There Is?    • Tom - I Was Barely 40, Rich, and Asking Is...   Christopher Folkens, episode 17: What If the Story You Tell Yourself Is a Lie?    • EP017   Christopher   What If the Story Yo...   David Chambers, episode 14: He Says It's Not Safe, And It's For Him To Decide    • David  - He Says Its Not Safe And Its For ...   WHERE YOU STAND One page, four boxes, ten minutes, a quiet room. Free: https://hamishniven.com/where-you-stand If you've already done the sum and you know what it says, there's a free 20-minute conversation with me: https://hamishniven.com/apply/ A LITTLE ABOUT HAMISH NIVEN For 25 years, I lived a life that looked successful from the outside. Inside it was falling apart, and I was throwing fuel on the fire — addiction, alcohol. I was on a steep path to self-destruct. November 2018. I chose life, and had to change everything. I built The 13th Room because nothing like that existed when I needed it. The Brave Man Project — this podcast. It is about men, but not just for men. Men who broke under the weight of their own performance. Men who rebuilt and climbed so much higher. The 13th Room is a space for the successful man who needs to change and knows it. 13 sessions, you and me. No fixing. Pure witnessing. Starts with a free 20-minute conversation. Podcast website: https://thebravemanproject.com Hamish's website: https://hamishniven.com LinkedIn:   / hamishniven   TikTok:   / hamish.niven   Instagram:   / hamishniven   Facebook:   / hamishniven   #TheBraveManProject #The13thRoom #MensMentalHealth #WhereYouStand