I Went on 46 First Dates in My 40s. Here's What I Learned

How many first dates actually turn into second dates? Nobody gives a straight answer, so here are my real numbers. I went on 46 first dates in my 40s, dating after divorce, and because I'm an engineer, I tracked every one of them in a spreadsheet. In this video, I walk through the full funnel: why about half of your first dates going nowhere is completely normal, and the two patterns hiding in my spreadsheet that mattered way more than the totals. The video I mention on never running out of things to say on a date:    • The Real Reason You Run Out Of Things To S...   The studies I mention: Asendorpf, Penke and Back (2011), "From dating to mating and relating," European Journal of Personality 25 (the 4.4 percent benchmark). Joel, Eastwick and Finkel (2017), "Is romantic desire predictable? Machine learning applied to initial romantic attraction," Psychological Science 28(10). Match, Singles in America survey (2016), the 59 percent chemistry finding. Chapters: 0:00 46 first dates, 1 wife 0:54 The answer nobody has 1:31 The full funnel, 46 to 1 2:20 Is 48 percent any good? 3:39 The date that went nowhere 4:57 Science agrees with the park bench 6:34 Starting from zero 7:23 Writing it down 9:07 Never at Zero 9:55 Two eras 12:12 She messaged first 14:23 The Recognition Test 15:00 Row 46 16:07 What you have now Music from Epidemic Sound: Twizzle, Curlicue and Plumage (Jobii), romantique (baegel). -------------------------------------------------- 📌 CONNECT WITH ME: Get my free Anti-Performance Field Guide when you join The Overlap, my newsletter. One bite-sized dating tip every week, for men who want real relationships (and for the women looking for those men): https://intentionalchemistry.com/anti...