Why Couples Stop Having Sex (And How to Fix It) - Lisa McFarland

A Relationship Coach on What Most Couples Get Wrong, How to Fight Well, and How to Keep Love Alive | Lisa McFarland | Made in Chaos EP043 Ryan Curtis sits down with Lisa McFarland, a relationship coach who has spent years helping couples find their way back to each other. This is a warm, funny and genuinely practical conversation about why relationships drift, how to argue without doing damage, and the small daily habits that keep love alive, whether you've been together six months or thirty years. What we cover: Why relationships take real effort once the honeymoon chemicals fade The "mental load," how it builds, and the conversation couples need to have about it Why 80% of arguments are never resolved, and what matters more than winning Attachment styles, and why we're sometimes drawn to chaos over calm How to do healthy conflict, and the ten-minute rule that stops a fight escalating. Why the frontal lobe shuts off when we're flooded, and how to regulate before you talk Why "I'm sorry you feel that way" isn't an apology, and what to say instead Why you should never try to resolve the big stuff at 10 at night Why men and women often need emotional and physical connection in a different order. The daily micro-habits that protect a relationship: the six-second kiss, the daily hug Love languages, responsive desire, and why good intimacy starts outside the bedroom Why so many people have never learned the vocabulary for what they want Loving someone versus being in love, and why that naturally moves up and down. The grass is greener where you water it The single biggest predictor of whether a couple lasts: being willing to change yourself Ryan Curtis is a former Irish MMA fighter who was paralysed from the neck down following a training accident. Told he would never walk again, he defied medical odds through sheer determination and rebuilt his life from the ground up. Made in Chaos exists to platform guests who have faced real adversity and come out with hard-earned wisdom worth sharing. Follow Lisa: @relatioship.coaching.ni Follow Ryan: @chaoscurtis Follow the Podcast: @madeinchaospod Subscribe for weekly episodes Sponsored by The Ink Factory, Ireland's highest rated tattoo studio. theinkfactory.ie | @theinkfactory