Why I Struggle to Work When I’m Not Alone (The Truth About Self-Abandonment).

Do you find yourself abandoning your routine, your goals, and your needs the moment someone else enters your space? In this episode of InnerWorkWithMercy, we are deconstructing the psychology of self-abandonment and why we "pause" our lives for others. Whether it’s with family, friends, or in romantic relationships, many of us struggle to maintain our identity and purpose when we aren't alone. Today, I'm sharing my personal experience with this pattern and walking you through the mindsets—from hyper-vigilance to the "fawn" response—that cause us to put our lives on hold. We will explore: Why your energy shifts when you aren't alone. The childhood conditioning behind self-abandonment. How to reclaim your focus and stay true to your "Inner Work" even with company. 0:00 - The feeling of "pausing" your life for others 0:00 - My personal experience with self-abandonment 0:00 - Why we lose our focus in relationships 0:00 - The "Fawn" response and childhood conditioning 0:00 - 3 Quotes to remember 0:00 - 2 Questions for your self-reflection SUBSCRIBE for more on self-reflection and pattern recognition: #InnerWork #SelfAbandonment #Boundaries #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #InnerWorkWithMercy #Codependency