What I Learned From My High-Conflict Divorce (How To Protect Yourself)

Thinking about a prenup and divorce? You need to hear this divorce advice as we sat down in this episode with Lani Akiona, a family law attorney with over 20 years of experience and someone who has personally navigated her own high-conflict divorce. She breaks down everything about Prenups and Divorce: from what divorce actually costs, what a prenup can and can't do, how collaborative divorce works, and why the things you think you know about marital law are probably wrong. Marriage is often romanticized, but protecting your assets is a practical step that deserves honest conversation. In this episode, we tackle why a prenuptial agreement isn't just about planning for a split, but about creating transparency in your partnership. We explore how these discussions can actually strengthen a relationship by removing the guesswork around finances. Whether you are currently engaged or just curious about financial planning in marriage, this discussion offers a realistic perspective on handling legal protection. We also look at the stigma surrounding divorce and how changing your mindset can help you approach these big decisions with more confidence. If you've ever wondered how much does a divorce cost compared to collaborative divorce, who really needs a prenup and important conversation you need to have during your marriage preparation or whether asking for a prenup means a lack of trust, this episode is a must watch. Drop your thoughts in the comments and let's get into it! #DivorceLawyer #prenup #divorcelawyer #collaborativedivorce #divorceadvice #GrowingYetGrown #familylawattorney #AssetProtection Chapters: 0:00 - Intro: Introducing Family Law Attorney - LANI AKIONA 5:00 - What is a Collaborative Divorce? 9:15 - How to Put Aside Hurt to Collaborate? 12:20 - How Many Divorce Cases End Up Going to Trial? 15:45 - Common Threads Present in Cases of Divorce & Misconceptions About Divorces 25:00 - Money Conversations Before Marriage & What Defaults to Community Property 26:57 - Does Transferring Personal Property Annul Separate Property Status? 36:30 - Should Everyone Get a Prenup and What is Prenupable? 40:00 - Does Bringing Up a Prenup Mean a Lack of Trust? & Protecting Against Partner Liabilities 44:15 - Non-Prenup Money Conversations & Protecting Stay-at-Home Partners 47:00 - The True Cost of Divorce & Timeline to Conclude a Case 49:15 - How Couples Can Prepare for a Collaborative Divorce 51:00 - Rapid-Fire Session & Child-Centered Divorces Follow us: TT, IG, FB: @GrowingYetGrown Email: gygthepod@gmail.com SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every Wednesday 7amPST, 5pm GMT +1 and 12pm EST Want to reach out to Lani Akiona: www.akionalaw.com Listen to Lani Akiona’s Podcast on all Platforms @The Akiona Law Podcast