Help! I'm in a parentified relationship! | Sorry, I Missed This

Romantic partners often support each other, and help each other out with different things. And with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some extra support needed here and there. But what happens when that support crosses the line into parentification, or taking care of your partner like they’re your child? Or the other way around, where your partner is responsible for taking care of you? Psychologist Lesley Cook (@lesleypsyd) comes onto the podcast to talk about how to notice parentification happening in your relationship, and the resentment that can build when it goes unnoticed. Related resources Lesley’s tiktok, @lesleypsyd   / lesleypsyd   A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD by Sari Solden, and Michelle Frank https://www.newharbinger.com/97816840... Timestamps 00:00 Intro 03:03 What is a parentified relationship? 05:37 When an ADHD partner is the “parent” in the relationship, or takes on too much responsibility 07:33 Are parentified relationships typically gendered? 08:48 Fairness versus equity in relationships 11:44 Weaponized incompetence 14:49 What happens to a relationship when it’s parentified for too long? 17:19 Notice, shift, repair 18:45 What to do when you notice yourself taking on too much responsibility for your partner 21:08 People pleasing, and the need to fix things 22:46 How to ask the right questions to your partner 24:07 Noticing your ADHD at play, and using it as an explanation, not an excuse 28:02 Setting an example as a parent to kids 32:24 Lesley’s parting advice 33:00 Where you can find Lesley and credits We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This page on Understood. https://www.understood.org/en/podcast...