You Might Be Closer to Your Breakthrough Than You Think | Vanessa Iceton | Episode 24

Two sheets of paper meant you failed. One sheet meant you passed. Vanessa Iceton walked out with two sheets eleven times. On the twelfth try, they handed her three. She waited until the elevator doors closed to read her score: 527. She told that story in Mindset Coward. This conversation picks up where the book ends. On this episode of the Memoirs to Millions Podcast, Asher and Vanessa go Beyond the Book: a launch night for about sixty people, a first keynote built around twelve rounds in a boxing ring, and a practice she now runs three days a week by choice. They test five maxims about stubbornness, belief, and ambition, and Vanessa names the exam that mattered more than the one on paper: passing her own self. She also explains why the chapter she almost cut became the one readers see themselves in. Welcome Vanessa Iceton to the Memoirs to Millions Podcast. Prefer to listen? Memoirs to Millions is on your podcast app too: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/389CRBH... ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CHAPTERS 00:00 Cold open 01:19 Two sheets meant fail, one meant pass, and the day she got three: 527 02:15 What changed since the book: the launch, the speaking academy, and a consultant 04:12 Her first big stage at the Inspire and Awaken conference 06:32 Workshops for people who can't afford therapy 06:57 How the book made her busy 08:14 Twelve rounds in the ring: when the lie is your opponent 09:37 Does failing eleven times make a psychologist more qualified, or less? 11:54 Turning over the leaf: why we hide our failures 12:42 What she'd tell someone who hasn't shared their story yet 15:24 Who she's trying to reach now 17:10 The exam on paper versus the exam in her mind 19:09 Passing your own self 21:26 Successful at failing: the reframe that stuck 22:49 The belief that belonged to someone else 24:12 Maxim: stubborn is what we call a calling that won't leave 26:15 Do it even if others don't like it, and the hand raised on stage 28:08 Maxim: passing the test and passing the belief are two different exams 29:46 Maxim: a finished book is a floor, not a ceiling 31:03 The chapter she almost cut, and how her family received it 36:12 Younger at forty: what changed since her first podcast 39:19 Maxim: telling your story once frees you 42:08 Maxim: ambition grows in the space a finished goal leaves behind 44:02 Ages ten to twelve: a new school, and a best friend since grade seven 50:52 The kindest act: gifts from clients, and a box of chocolates painted with hope 52:45 Rapid fire: Shrinking, three books, and the CBT thought record 55:01 Mount Rushmore 56:07 Biggest takeaway: recognizing the growth ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ GET THE BOOK Mindset Coward, co-authored by Vanessa Iceton: https://lifechangingwisdom.com/produc... Ready to write your own story? Start here: https://memoirstomillions.com/vanessa ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ IDEAS & REFERENCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins: https://link.amazon/B03epOATd Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://link.amazon/B0bdEm5E5 The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman: https://link.amazon/B09dv7QQi Shrinking: the Apple TV+ series about a therapist, Vanessa's current watch The CBT thought record: the tool she reaches for to reset a spiraling thought Inspire and Awaken: the women's leadership and wellness conference where she gave her keynote ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CONNECT WITH VANESSA ICETON Website: https://pearlpsychological.com Book a session: https://pearlpsychological.janeapp.com Instagram:   / pearlpsychological   Facebook:   / pearlpsychological   LinkedIn:   / vanessa-iceton-468a6432   TikTok:   / pearlpsychological   All links: https://linktr.ee/pearlpsychological ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CONNECT WITH ASHER WRIGHT Memoirs to Millions: https://memoirstomillions.com Life Changing Wisdom Marketplace: https://lifechangingwisdom.com Weekly Intel Newsletter: https://m2mweeklyintel.com 100 Books That Changed How I Think: https://asheralbertwright.com/1000boo... LinkedIn:   / asherawwright   Facebook:   / lcwforu   ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT MEMOIRS TO MILLIONS Asher Wright is a 22-year US Army veteran, Jamaican immigrant, and 7x published author. He helps veterans, immigrants, and entrepreneurs turn their life stories into published books that build authority and income. #MemoirsToMillions #VanessaIceton #MindsetCoward #BeyondTheBook #SuccessfulAtFailing