1st year parenting is NOT equal (even with a good partner)

The 1st year is NOT 50/50 (even with a good partner) Listen, my husband is an INCREDIBLE father and husband, but by design the first year stacks the weight of responsibility on me. With my first I rejected it. With my second I'm soaking it up! There are things to make it more equal, I think a major one being a bottle. But if you're a co-sleeping mama you're all getting more sleep if you're the one to tend to the baby in the night! Listen to this episode: https://heyshayla.buzzsprout.com/1819... I hope this video gives you some permission to accept-and-evaluate if things need to change and how you can work together! Discount codes and brands I work with: https://www.heyshayla.com/my-favs/ Email list for giveaways, sales, and new videos: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/610da7... Greens and Vegan Protein I use: https://www.heyshayla.com/1stphormyt Pre/postnatal probiotics: https://www.heyshayla.com/lovebugyt HEYSHAYLA for 15% off Pregnancy workouts and postpartum rehab: https://www.heyshayla.com/expectingan... code HEYSHAYLA saves you $$ Our NONTOXIC MATTRESS (with adjustable firmness): https://www.heyshayla.com/plushbedsyt Hypnobirthing course I used to prepare for my natural and unmedicated birth: https://www.heyshayla.com/hypnobabiesyt THE BEST developmental play kits: https://www.heyshayla.com/loveveryyt ——————————————— Let’s be social: contact@heyshayla.com Blog: https://www.heyshayla.com Mailing list: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/610da7... Instagram:   / heyshayla   Podcast: https://heyshayla.buzzsprout.com/ Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heyshayla Youtube:    / heyshayla   Facebook:   / heyshayla   00:00 Introduction 00:50 @HeyShayla on instagram and Hey Shayla podcast! 01:10 The 1st year of having a baby is not equal 01:26 5 ways it's not 50/50 01:37 Sometimes you just need someone to tell you 01:48 1. Hormones after pregnancy 02:26 I encapsulated my placenta 02:38 i washed my hair with body wash 02:49 Use your partner's brain 03:23 mom brain is a real biological thing 03:37 2. instincts 04:00 one parent needs to rest 04:58 jess hover accidently sleep trained 05:39 instincts with pottying 06:44 3. Feeding / Nursing 06:57 Pumping OR formula make things a little more even 07:12 I used to get so upset 07:26 With my second I'm much more chill 07:51 Bottles can help make things more even 08:02 4. Comfort 08:30 Human babies are born DEPENDENT 09:06 Why does my kid hate the carseat? 09:26 5. Things even out with more kids 10:19 How to make it feel more even 10:34 I asked Seth to be incharge of the trash 10:56 It takes awareness... which is the hard part