Why Kids Hit, Kick, Bite and Get Aggressive at Home — What Parents Need to Know

If your child hits, kicks, bites, scratches or gets aggressive at home — but manages to hold it together at school — this video explains exactly what's going on and what you can actually do about it. Behaviour support strategies for parents of children with complex needs, school refusal, NDIS funding, or behavioural breakdown. Written by a registered NDIS Behaviour Support Practitioner with 20+ years inside Queensland schools. Does your child fall apart the moment they walk through the door? Do they save their worst behaviour for you — the person who shows up for them every single day? You're not alone, and you're not doing it wrong. In this video I share the story of Tom and his mum — a family I worked with where the aggression at home had gotten to the point where mum was floored in her own kitchen. I walk through exactly what was happening, why it was happening, and what actually shifted things for them. Here's what we cover: → Why kids save their most explosive behaviour for their parents and not their teachers → The "full cup" — what's actually building inside your child's nervous system all day before they get home → What happens inside the brain during a meltdown — and why consequences, reasoning and yelling back don't work in that moment → The four things I coach families to do that actually make a difference over time → Why your calm is the most powerful tool you have — and how to hold onto it when everything in you wants to match their energy This applies whether your child is 4 or 15. Whether it's door slamming and throwing things, or whether it's escalated to the point where siblings are getting hurt or you've felt unsafe in your own home. The thing underneath all of it is the same — and once you understand it, everything changes about how you respond. I'm Brendan — a registered NDIS Behaviour Support Practitioner and former Queensland Guidance Officer with over 20 years working inside schools. I founded The Guided Path to support families navigating complex child behaviour, school refusal, suspensions, and behavioural breakdown. I specialise in children with NDIS funding under the Improved Relationships support category, and I work with families across Brisbane, Logan, and the Bayside area. Every week I put out free content to help as many parents as possible. Subscribe so you don't miss it. 👉 Subscribe for weekly videos on school distress, behaviour, and helping your child feel safe, capable, and understood. 👉 Follow me on Facebook for daily tips: https://www.facebook.com/share/17Xndo... 👉 Book a free discovery call: https://forms.office.com/Pages/Respon...