Bryony Gordon: How people pleasing fuelled my OCD, alcoholism, and eating disorder

You’ve heard of fight or flight, but what about fawn; the idea of appeasing others to stay safe? Author and mental health advocate Bryony Gordon thinks there’s a reason so many women feel under pressure to people please. Bryony explores how she feels people pleasing has fuelled parts of her OCD, alcoholism, and eating disorders over the years. Fearne and Bryony also chat about body image, and both reveal some of the insecurities that have consumed them... that likely no one else has noticed. Bryony reckons feeling ‘too much’ and ‘not enough’ are two sides of the same coin, and offers advice on how to confidently take up space. (Or, as she puts it: “step into your mother*cking majesty!”) Bryony’s novel, People Pleaser, is out now. ABOUT HAPPY PLACE Fearne's HAPPY PLACE is a place to celebrate honesty, authenticity and community. Fearne delves into life, love, loss and everything in-between by chatting to inspiring individuals who have made a change in their own lives or help other people to find different ways of seeing life as she reveals what happiness means to them. Happy Place is a space that is safe for all where difference is celebrated and the extraordinary is discovered. A place to focus on the positives and to help you find the joy every day - big or small. Still haven't subscribed to Fearne Cotton's Happy Place on Youtube? ► https://bit.ly/371zqza ABOUT FEARNE COTTON Fearne Cotton is an English television and radio presenter, mother, broadcaster, writer and founder of Happy Place, a place where Fearne holds difficult but important conversations to encourage self-care and self-appreciation, creating a positive impact on the world, giving everyone a voice and actively listening. CONNECT WITH FEARNE COTTON Instagram:   / fearnecotton   Facebook:   / fearnecotton   Twitter:   / fearnecotton   00:00 – Welcome Bryony Gordon 02:00 – The Inner Voice That Says “You’re Not Enough” 04:30 – How People Pleasing 10:00 – Why We Care So Much What People Think 17:20 – Feeling “Too Much” vs “Not Enough” 18:20 – The ‘Fawn’ Trauma Response Explained 22:00 – Why Women Are Told to Stay Small 24:00 – The Pressure to Look “Perfect” 33:00 – How Shame Keeps Us Stuck 38:00 – Managing Anxiety & Negative Thoughts 41:00 – Letting Go of Responsibility 44:00 – Body Image & Learning to Accept Yourself 48:30 – Why Your Body Is a Miracle 55:05 – Bryony's Happy Place #peoplepleasing #BryonyGordon #SelfWorth #HappyPlace #fearnecotton