How Enmeshment Is Passed Down: Growing Up with Blurry Boundaries

Welcome to Healing the Hungry Ghost! 🪷 I’m Summer, a trauma therapist exploring the roots of stress, disconnection, and emotional suffering — and what it truly means to heal. (Quick note: this video was created when the channel was called School for Relationships, but the channel is now Healing the Hungry Ghost to reflect my focus on trauma, healing, and mindfulness). Enmeshment, like codependency, is a learned pattern of relating to others—often rooted in our family experiences growing up. This video explains how different parenting styles shape these patterns, why certain family boundaries matter most, and how these early influences impact your adult relationships. Whether you were raised with clear boundaries or blurry ones, understanding the effects of your upbringing can help you bring unconscious relationship habits into awareness. This awareness is a powerful step toward gaining choice and agency in how you connect with others today. My hope is that this insight will help you unlock healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self 🙏🏻 ⏱️Timestamps⏱️ 00:00 Welcome 00:20 Disclaimer & Intention Setting 02:51 2 Important Types of Boundaries in Families 04:52 Blurry Role Boundaries in Families 05:35 Authoritative Parenting 07:18 Permissive & Neglectful Parenting 09:56 Parentification & Its Impacts 12:33 Attunement in Family Relationships 14:54 Blurry Emotional Boundaries in Families 18:34 Authoritarian & Psychologically Controlling Parenting 21:36 Bringing Back in Nuance 22:38 How We Build Resilience