Diagnosed at 16 but Still Shamed: An ADHD Coach’s Letter to Her Younger Self | Sue Day

What happens when you’re diagnosed with ADHD as a teen… but still grow up hearing you’re lazy, not trying hard enough, or “you can’t have ADHD because you can read a book”? In this conversation, Cynthia Hammer (FINDtheADHDgirls) sits down with Sue Day—ADHD coach and Committed Partner—to talk about her Letter to Her Younger Self and what she wishes every girl (and parent) understood sooner. Sue shares: Why “knowing” you have ADHD isn’t the same as getting real support How supportive words (even from one person) can protect a child’s self-esteem The lasting harm of moral judgment (“you’re choosing not to try”) Why self-advocacy is a game-changer for girls with ADHD How shame can linger for decades—even when you’re successful Why diagnosis, coaching, structure, and environment all matter (not just medication) If you’re parenting a girl who seems “too much and not enough,” or you’re a woman unpacking years of criticism and self-doubt, Sue’s story will land. About FINDtheADHDgirls: We help parents, educators, and clinicians recognize ADHD in girls earlier—so fewer girls grow up blaming themselves. #FINDtheADHDgirls #ftag #ADHDgirls #ADHDLife #ADHDPower #NeurodivergentStrength #KeepMovingForward #CelebrateYourWins #ADHDAwareness