You Loved. You Worked. You Hurt. You Blamed. So Why Does It Feel Like You Failed? | Not Us Podcast

Welcome to the Not Us Podcast. You loved. You tried. You compromised. You got hurt. You blamed them. Maybe you blamed yourself. And after everything, you're still left wondering: why does it feel like you've failed at love? This week, Angela and Samantha welcome Jocelyn Broderick, relationship coach and certified conscious uncoupling coach, for a conversation that gets far messier than anyone's idea of an amicable breakup. After 23 years together, Jocelyn and her partner went their separate ways. But through conscious uncoupling, she discovered something uncomfortable: some of the behaviours she'd blamed on him were also things she was doing herself, without even realising it. And that changed everything about how she understood their relationship. The three women get into the shame of divorce, affairs, emotional wounds, the agreements we make in relationships and never question, and why we so often wait until everything falls apart before asking ourselves the difficult questions. There's heartbreak that felt worse than cancer. A confession about keying an ex's car. And a very real question about whether staying in a relationship can sometimes be the bigger failure. But there's also something unexpected in Jocelyn's story. She and her former partner still love and respect each other. Their romantic relationship ended, but they found a different way to be in each other's lives. So what if the story you've been telling yourself about why your relationship didn't work isn't the whole story? An honest, funny and sometimes uncomfortable Not Us conversation about love, blame, heartbreak and getting to know the person you've been bringing into every relationship: yourself. Our guest: Jocelyn Broderick Relationship coach and certified conscious uncoupling coach Instagram: @jossiebrod Email: coach@jocelynbroderick.com Mentioned in this episode: Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, Whats true about you and Calling in the one by Katherine Woodward Thomas. Join Angela and Samantha every week on Not Us Podcast as they talk about change, choice and the messy bits in between. #NotUsPodcast #ConsciousUncoupling #Relationships Subscribe for more:    / @notuspodcast   Instagram:   / notus_podcast   ——— Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:37 What Uncoupling Means 04:12 Fairy Tales vs Reality 07:16 Wounds and Patterns 16:51 Shame and Divorce 19:54 Changing Agreements 27:33 Kids in the Middle 33:46 Is It Failure 39:43 Big Emotions Acting Out 51:03 Flexibility Compromise In Love 52:46 Beyond Romance To Business 01:00:17 Dating Again After Healing 01:07:27 Closing Advice And Farewell