1. The most important tool for being a modern Dad - Leaning In

Sometimes, when confronted by difficulty, criticism or uncertainty, Dads ‘lean out’ from hands-on parenting. This can lead to isolation, resentment and even shame. The antidote is ‘Leaning In’, a powerful tool to strengthen our relationships with not just our children, but the entire family. To help explain this tool, I’m joined by Pete Coles. Pete is a qualified psychotherapist who works with individuals, couples and groups, drawing on more than 20 years across mental health, group therapy and the healing arts to help people better understand themselves, their relationships and the patterns shaping their lives. In this episode, Pete shares: Why Dads need space to fumble through parenting and find their own way. How leaning in helps Dads build confidence and a deeper connection with their family. Why Dads can start stepping back when they feel like mum does it better. Why both parents need to embrace each other’s different parenting styles. Why spending time with your kids should be about wanting that connection, not just giving your partner a break. How becoming more involved helps Dads find their own natural parenting style. Why rough play, losing and being pushed a little can help kids build resilience. How to transition from work mode back into the family without disrupting the flow of the household. KEY QUOTES “Keep leaning in, even though there's a vulnerability and a volatility that's at the forefront.” “When Dads don't have the information, they can respond to it by stepping back as opposed to stepping in.” “I'm gonna take them down to the park, not because you need to rest, but because I'm seeking that time of intimacy.” MORE ABOUT PETE Get in touch with Pete via his website. Follow him on Instagram Read his writings on Substack Enquire about working with Pete using this booking link. GET INVOLVED WITH THE PODCAST ONLINE Join our community of Dads on Facebook Follow on Instagram: @dad_toolbox Follow on Youtube Sign up for weekly Dad tools, advice and support Find out more at https://linktr.ee/dadtoolbox SUPPORTING RESEARCH Download a compilation of the papers and books used to research this topic. Podcast produced by The Podcast Butler