The Wheel of Consent Explained by Dr. Betty Martin

What if better intimacy starts with clearer turn-taking? In this educational interview, Dr. Betty Martin breaks down the Wheel of Consent, a somatic practice that helps clients (and clinicians) separate giving from receiving, clarify boundaries, and ask for what they truly want. From surrogate partner work to practical touch exercises, Dr. Betty shows how consent skills create safety, self-trust, and deeper pleasure without performance pressure. This interview is part of SHA’s 2025 Annual Conference 10-Year Anniversary in Denver, featuring 6 keynotes and 40+ presenters across s//xtech/AI, medical content, and clinical practice. 👉 Want to LEARN how to become an in-demand professional? 🔗 Get certified today: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-... 🔗 Join our newsletter: https://bit.ly/SHASignUp --- Video title ideas for the algorithm: ✔ Wheel of Consent Made Simple with Dr. Betty Martin ✔ How to Ask for What You Want with the Wheel of Consent ✔ Giving vs. Receiving Touch—Why Most People Get It Backwards ✔ Boundaries, Desire, and the Wheel of Consent ✔ Stop Performing, Start Feeling: Consent Skills That Heal ✔ What Therapists Should Know About the Wheel of Consent ✔ Surrogate Partner Work and Somatic Consent in Practice ✔ Why Turn-Taking Transforms Intimacy ✔ The Art of Receiving and Giving—Explained ✔ From People-Pleasing to Choice: Consent Tools That Work Connect with us: • Our Website: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ • Got questions? Schedule a call: https://calendly.com/michelle-shateam... • Instagram:   / sexualhealthalliance   • Facebook:   / shateams   • X (Twitter):   / swsexualhealth   • Tikok:   / sexualhealthalliance   • LinkedIn:   / sexual-health-alliance   • Pinterest:   / sexualhealthalliance   --- 💡 In This Interview, You’ll Learn: ✔️ What the Wheel of Consent is and how it separates giving from receiving ✔️ Why turn-taking clarifies desire, limits, and capacity ✔️ How somatic practice reduces performance anxiety and “shoulds” ✔️ What surrogate partner work is (and isn’t) in a triadic model ✔️ Common places clients get stuck—asking, noticing, and tolerating pleasure ✔️ Practical ways clinicians can teach empowered choice and boundaries ▶️ Chapters: 0:00 – Why “practice” matters: learning to notice, ask, refuse, and experiment 0:31 – What is a surrogate partner? Masters & Johnson’s triadic model (therapist–client–surrogate) 1:40 – Who seeks surrogacy & why: when therapy needs hands-on practice 2:32 – Skills before s//x: conversation, hand-holding, touch; intercourse is rare 3:50 – From chiropractic to somatic education: Betty’s path and what clients actually struggle with 5:51 – Comfort in your own skin: anxiety, performance, and pleasure without performing 7:48 – Experiential, not analytic: slow, clothed sessions; erotic massage to learn receiving 10:22 – Introducing the Wheel of Consent: taking apart giving vs. receiving 10:49 – “My turn / your turn”: desire first, with boundaries and limits intact 11:17 – Why it’s hard to put yourself first (even for 3–10 minutes) 12:00 – Gendered themes (with overlap): men and self-focus; women and asking/“going along” 13:56 – How the Wheel emerged: observing where clients get stuck and confused 14:39 – What changes: clarity, wants/limits, and the courage to ask for touch --- Watch the video till the end and let us know your thoughts and questions in the comments. If you like this video, please SUBSCRIBE and don’t forget to press the bell 🔔, like, comment, and share. SHA has been helping you build the career of your dreams through certifications, since 2015. We are a global leader in S//xuality education, helping thousands of students create meaningful and transformative careers