Go within first – self-value, self-trust & finding the real you with Angela Cox | Mind Monkeys Ep14

What happens when the version of success you've been chasing turns out to belong to someone else entirely? Angela Cox is a Master Coach, author and founder of Paseda360, where she trains coaches in the Paseda method and develops leaders to understand what sits beneath the behaviours that get in their way. Creator of the Pretender Masks Model™ and Stop Being Stuck®, she has spent more than 8,000 hours coaching people to understand not just what they do, but why they do it. This is one of those conversations that starts by challenging the well-trodden stories of what we're told success looks like and explores the tension (and, ultimately burnout) that living 'someone else's story' creates. Angela and I dig into the corporate career she was brilliant at but couldn't sustain, why the self-mastery industry is selling a dream it can't deliver, the difference between dismissing your mind monkeys and actually learning to operate the system, and why looking within and becoming congruent with your own truth, is the first step towards finding contentment. Also: Lemon drizzle or Victoria sponge cake? We'll explain. ⚠️ APOLOGIES FOR SOME OF THE AUDIO QUALITY ⚠️ We had some issues with echo in a couple of places – the closed captions on this episode will be your friend ⏱️ CHAPTERS: 0:00 - Introduction and welcome 1:27 - Meet Angela Cox 2:11 - Why would you walk away from something that looks perfect? 3:06 - The northern girl from Bolton who climbed every ladder she was handed 6:25 - People pleasing, over-promotion and the relentless drive to prove worth 8:11 - The enough moment: resigning on the spot and the two decisions made in the car 13:49 - From resignation to Paseda: how the method was built 17:55 - Why Angela broke all the rules of coaching (and wrote better ones) 21:55 - Poor inputs, poor outputs: the case for digging into root causes 23:43 - You can see where you want to be and still get in your own way 25:56 - Self-mastery is a lie: the case for operating the system instead 28:24 - The self-mastery shysters and the pretenders they create 29:20 - The Art of Brilliance partnership and the Dr Andy fangirl origin story 32:44 - Trust, reciprocity and what makes a true collaboration work 33:54 - What's next for Angela and Paseda 37:07 - The third book (and Mark's small but significant role in it) 38:19 - Fear doesn't go away. Here's what changes. 41:38 - Go within first: Angela's advice for anyone feeling that friction 42:21 - When you have self-value and self-trust, what you want changes completely 🌍 CONNECT ANGELA COX: Website: https://paseda360.com LinkedIn:   / angelacoxpaseda360   ------------------------ 🎙️ Mind Monkeys Welcome: Bananas Optional is the podcast from transformational mindset coach and 'Four Fears® Guy' Mark Franklin. New episodes fortnightly. 🔗 Take the free Business Bravery Quiz: https://mark-sttbhrko.scoreapp.com 📅 Book a discovery call: https://tidycal.com/markfranklin/firs... 📖 How to Embrace the Four Fears® of Business Ownership: https://www.markfranklin.co.uk Subscribe for more honest conversations with the humans helping other humans succeed. 🍌 Bananas optional. Bravery essential.