Why Can't Anything Outside You Give You Peace? | The Tiff & Jack Show 261

What are you waiting on to finally feel okay? The new house. The new car. The new relationship. The day your partner finally says it nicer, or your boss finally sees your work. We tell ourselves that when that thing happens, we'll have peace. It never works. You are the same person inside the new car. Tiff and Jack talk about outsourced peace: looking to people, places and things to make us feel better, and blaming them when we don't. Why anger is usually a signal that a boundary is needed, and why being triggered is good news. If it's on you, you're in the driver's seat. Two questions to ask every time something throws you into the pit: Is this my stinking thinking? Or is there a boundary I need to set? Join The Return Room live every Thursday at 3 pm ET, free: https://www.skool.com/your-return-pat... Find the pattern that's been running you, free: https://yourreturnpath.com/patternfinder Chapters 00:00 Outsourced peace never works 00:34 "When this finally happens, I'll feel better" 02:00 You're the same person inside the new car 03:56 What's your definition of happiness? 06:09 The lie that you should be happy every second 07:07 Looking outside yourself to fix it 10:35 Blame is outsourcing too 11:08 How are you feeling right now? 12:17 Anger is a signal 14:15 Taking responsibility for how you feel 16:20 "If I'm triggered, that's on me" 18:20 Stinking thinking, or a boundary? 19:42 It's nobody's job to make you feel anything 21:19 The fear of feeling certain feelings 22:25 When your boss doesn't respect your work 25:09 Your assignment 27:08 Get off repeat 29:10 Doing your own inner work 29:59 Dessert first Your life. Your way. #TheTiffAndJackShow #YourReturnPath #TiffAndJack