越愛說「對不起」，越容易被討便宜？一句話把責任還給對方：高敏感族的破局溝通法【高敏感族群的人間防彈衣EP6】

本集是《高敏感族群的人間防彈衣：從獵物到捕食者的邊界重塑課》系列的第六集。 EP6 高敏感者的人際棋局：如何在不傷人的前提下贏 高敏感族最大的誤解，是以為「贏」就等於「讓對方輸」—— 所以寧可自己委屈，也不敢真正出手。 這集我們要從前五集的「防守」，正式進入「主動出擊」。 用三個經過科學驗證的策略框架，拆解出一套「三手不傷局」—— 讓你贏，但不用讓對方輸，也不用讓自己受傷。 📌 本集重點 ・第一手「破局位」：用納許均衡（Nash Equilibrium）打破「贏＝對方輸」的舊思維 ・第二手「借力落子」：用針鋒相對策略（Tit-for-Tat）建立清楚、可預期的回應模式 ・第三手「定局」：用原則式談判與BATNA，守住底線又保住關係 ・承接EP1「隱藏底牌」框架，也埋下EP7創傷修復的伏筆 ⏱️ 章節時間軸 00:00 開場｜你以為的好脾氣，其實是委屈換來的 00:50 PART1｜你不是不會贏，你是誤解了「贏」 02:24 PART2｜第一手：破局位（納許均衡） 06:37 PART3｜第二手：借力落子（針鋒相對策略） 10:04 PART4｜第三手：定局（原則式談判／BATNA） 13:46 PART5｜三手整合＋下集預告 📚 參考來源 ・第一手「破局位」（納許均衡）參考：Nash, J. (1950). Equilibrium Points in n-Person Games. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 36(1), 48-49. ・第二手「借力落子」（針鋒相對策略）參考：Axelrod, R. (1984). The Evolution of Cooperation. Basic Books. ・第三手「定局」（原則式談判／BATNA）參考：Fisher, R., & Ury, W. (1981). Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Houghton Mifflin. 🔔 如果這集影片對你有幫助，別忘了按讚訂閱分享， 也歡迎點擊「粉絲熱推」或透過「超級感謝」小額支持頻道的創作， 你的每一個支持，都是這個頻道繼續走下去的動力。 頻道連結：   / @sang-mu_lab   #人間防彈衣 #高敏感族 #人際心理學 #邊界感 #賽局理論 #納許均衡 #談判技巧 #心理學 #桑木心理觀察站 #桑木不語 📅《高敏感族群的人間防彈衣：從獵物到捕食者的邊界重塑課》系列播放日程 EP1 從「獵物」變「捕食者」：心理學教你如何隱藏你的底牌 (7/10 已播) EP2 辨認誰在獵補你：那些讓你說不上來哪裡怪的人，心理學整理出七種訊號 (7/17 已播) EP3 情緒防火牆：當對方按你開關時，你怎麼不被引爆 (7/24 已播) EP4 邊界的語言學：讓對方聽懂「不」的高階說法 (8/7 已播) EP5 埃及神話裡的「權力象徵」：讓人靠近前就先打消念頭的氣場心理學 (8/14 已播) EP6 高敏感者的人際棋局：如何在不傷人的前提下贏 (本集-8/21) EP7 當防彈衣還沒穿上就已經中彈：受傷之後，你還是可以重新長出邊界 (預計8/28) EP8 防彈衣穿好之後：這一次，你來決定誰可以靠近你 (預計9/4) English Version This is Episode 6 of the series "The Bulletproof Vest for Highly Sensitive People: From Prey to Predator, a Course in Rebuilding Boundaries." EP6: The High-Sensitivity Person's Game of Chess — How to Win Without Hurting Anyone High-sensitivity people share one deep misunderstanding: they think winning means someone else has to lose — so they'd rather swallow their own hurt than ever push back. This episode moves from defense (Episodes 1-5) into active strategy, breaking down a science-backed three-move framework that lets you win — without making anyone lose, and without losing yourself. 📌 What's covered ・Move 1: Reframe the Board — using Nash Equilibrium to break the "win = they lose" mindset ・Move 2: Respond in Kind — using the Tit-for-Tat strategy for clear, predictable boundaries ・Move 3: Close the Deal — using principled negotiation and BATNA to hold your ground without burning the relationship ・Connects back to Episode 1's "hidden cards" framework, and sets up Episode 7's healing arc ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 Hook — The "good temper" that was actually self-sacrifice 00:50 Part 1 — You're not bad at winning, you misunderstood what winning means 02:24 Part 2 — Move 1: Reframe the Board (Nash Equilibrium) 06:37 Part 3 — Move 2: Respond in Kind (Tit-for-Tat) 10:04 Part 4 — Move 3: Close the Deal (Principled Negotiation / BATNA) 13:46 Part 5 — Putting it together + next episode 📚 References ・Reference for Move 1 "Reframe the Board" (Nash Equilibrium): Nash, J. (1950). Equilibrium Points in n-Person Games. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 36(1), 48-49. ・Reference for Move 2 "Respond in Kind" (Tit-for-Tat strategy): Axelrod, R. (1984). The Evolution of Cooperation. Basic Books. ・Reference for Move 3 "Close the Deal" (Principled Negotiation / BATNA): Fisher, R., & Ury, W. (1981). Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Houghton Mifflin. 🔔 If this episode helped, please like, subscribe, and share — and if you'd like to support the channel directly, the Super Thanks button below means the world to us. Channel:    / @sang-mu_lab   #BulletproofVest #HighlySensitivePerson #InterpersonalPsychology #Boundaries #GameTheory #NashEquilibrium #NegotiationSkills #Psychology #SangMuPsychLab #Unspoken Mind 📅 Series Schedule — "The Bulletproof Vest for Highly Sensitive People" EP1 From Prey to Predator: How Psychology Teaches You to Hide Your Cards (Aired 7/10) EP2 Spotting the Hunters: 7 Warning Signs of People Who Feel "Off" (Aired 7/17) EP3 The Emotional Firewall: Staying Steady When Someone Pushes Your Buttons (Aired 7/24) EP4 The Linguistics of Boundaries: How to Say "No" So They Actually Hear It (Aired 8/7) EP5 Power Symbols in Egyptian Mythology: The Psychology of an Aura That Deters Before Anyone Gets Close (Aired 8/14) EP6 The High-Sensitivity Person's Game of Chess: How to Win Without Hurting Anyone (This episode — 8/21) EP7 Wounded Before the Vest Was Even On: How to Regrow Your Boundaries After Getting Hurt (Coming 8/28) EP8 With the Vest On: This Time, You Decide Who Gets Close (Coming 9/4) ⚠️【聲明/Disclaimer】 ①非醫療建議：內容僅供自我成長與衛教參考，非專業心理諮商或醫療診斷。若需協助請諮詢合格醫療機構。Not Medical Advice: Educational/growth purposes only; not professional therapy. Consult a licensed practitioner if needed. ②AI輔助：視覺與部分文案由AI輔助，核心觀點為創作者的原創。AI-Assisted: Visuals & outlines are AI-assisted; core concepts are original. ③版權：未經授權禁止搬運、二剪或商用，違者必究。Copyright: All rights reserved. Unauthorized re-upload/editing prohibited.