The Real Reason You Judge Yourself So Harshly | Dr. Gabor Mate

Why are you so hard on yourself? Physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Mate explains where that harsh inner voice really comes from, and how to start treating yourself with compassion. In this video, I break down the most powerful lessons from his live conversation with Jay Shetty. If someone you love couldn't work or do anything tomorrow, would you call them worthless? Of course not. So why do you say it to yourself? In this video: Why we live in other people's minds The two questions: "Have I done enough?" vs "Am I enough?" Why the things you criticize about yourself may once have protected you When the body says no: stress and your health The one question that reveals hidden stress: "Where am I not saying no?" Why "I'm too young" is a belief, not a feeling Self-improvement vs self-acceptance The one question to ask yourself every day Chapters: 0:00 Would you say this to someone you love? 1:00 Living in other people's minds 2:40 "Have I done enough?" vs "Am I enough?" 4:35 Your flaws began as protection 6:25 When the body says no 7:45 Where are you not saying no? 9:40 "I'm too young" is not a feeling 11:40 Self-improvement vs self-acceptance 12:50 The question to ask every day Source: Dr. Gabor Mate in a live conversation with Jay Shetty on the On Purpose podcast. His books: When the Body Says No and The Myth of Normal. Ideas and research mentioned: Thomas Merton Peter Levine Hans Selye: stress research Kristin Neff: self-compassion If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to someone you trust or a mental health professional. You don't have to work through it alone. This is an independent commentary video. It is not affiliated with or endorsed by Dr. Gabor Mate or Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty shares weekly videos on mindset, healing, relationships and self-improvement. #gabormate #selfcompassion #mentalhealth