You're Not Loving Too Much. You're Disappearing

You say "wherever you want" even when you care. Somewhere along the way, you started disappearing. You're not unhappy. You're in love. So why does closeness feel like it costs you a piece of yourself? In this video, we look at what attachment research actually suggests: that you don't lose yourself because you love too much, but because closeness starts to feel conditional. We also look at why secure closeness can make you more independent, not less. What we cover: The "wherever you want" moment and what it really costs The dependency paradox (Brooke Feeney's research on secure bases) Hyperactivating and deactivating attachment strategies (Mikulincer and Shaver) How a breakup can blur your sense of self (Erica Slotter and colleagues, 2010) Self-expansion in relationships (Arthur Aron) Three practical ways to be close without shrinking If this put words to something you've felt, subscribe, and tell me in the comments: which small thing did you stop saying out loud? Note: This video is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice. If what you're experiencing involves fear, controlling behavior, or being punished for having a self, please reach out to a trained professional for support. #attachmentstyle #relationshippsychology #selfworth