You’re Telling On Yourself: The Truth About Gender, Anger & Identity with Alok Vaid-Menon

Alok Vaid-Menon is a performance artist, standup comedian, author, advocate, fashion icon and poet from Texas. Their book “Beyond The Gender Binary” is absolutely game-changing. In this powerful and deeply human conversation, I sit down with writer, performer, and cultural commentator Alok Vaid-Menon to explore identity, masculinity, gender, and the emotional forces shaping our world right now. We talk about why conversations around gender can feel so confronting, what’s really behind anger and division in society, and how fear, grief, and unresolved trauma often drive the way we treat others. This isn’t just a conversation about being non-binary — it’s a conversation about what it means to be human. Alok shares personal stories of transformation, from self-rejection to radical self-acceptance, and offers a perspective that challenges the idea that there are “good people” and “bad people.” Instead, we explore the possibility that compassion, curiosity, and self-awareness might be the real path forward. More info: ▪️ https://alokvmenon.com/ More from Osher: 🎙 Better Than Yesterday podcast: https://tinyurl.com/BTYpodcast 📬 Sign up to the Better Than Yesterday newsletter: https://makeitbetterthanyesterday.kit... 📸 Instagram:   / osher_gunsberg   📖 Books: https://linktr.ee/osher_gunsberg 📺 Story Time on YouTube:    / @storyclublive   🎟️ Story Time tickets: https://linktr.ee/osher_gunsberg 00:00 Intro 03:53 Interview start 04:28 Anti LGBTQIA+ Violence 12:43 Homophobia's underlying causes 17:14 Gender stereotypes 24:03 Questioning authority 32:50 "Beyond the Gender Binary" 38:53 Is society learning? 49:20 Life risks to non-binary people 54:02 Understanding gender diversity 57:54 Redemption #betterthanyesterday #oshergünsberg #podcast #AlokVaidMenon #gender #nonbinary