Why Did I Say That? How to Stop Overthinking Conversations

You get home, and the replay starts. Why did I say that? Did they think I was weird? If you replay conversations for hours afterwards, it’s not because you’re bad at talking to people. It’s because your brain is running an old survival program, and the footage it shows you is edited. In this video, you’ll learn why your brain hits replay, why the replay lies to you, and a simple 5-step process to switch it off. Then there’s the research I held back until the end, which changes how you’ll see every conversation you’ve ever replayed. Chapters 0:00 The replay starts 1:00 What’s happening in your head 2:00 The highlight reel of your worst moments 2:49 The spotlight effect 3:57 What if you really did mess up? 4:31 The 5-step process 4:37 Step 1: Catch the loop 5:03 Step 2: Ask the only useful question 5:30 Step 3: Fill in the missing half 5:57 Step 4: Change the channel 6:20 Step 5: Give it a time limit 6:46 The research I held back 7:52 Back to the replay Research mentioned Clark & Wells (1995): post-event processing in social anxiety Gilovich, Medvec & Savitsky (2000), Cornell University, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: the spotlight effect Boothby, Cooney, Sandstrom & Clark (2018), Psychological Science: the liking gap What’s one conversation you couldn’t stop replaying? Tell me in the comments. Subscribe for a new videos like this #overthinking #socialanxiety #confidence