Who Taught You How to Love? Breaking the Patterns We Grew Up With | Ep. 5

Where do we actually learn how to love? We break down the cultural conditioning that shapes our relationship dynamics today. We often assume our approach to intimacy is intuitive, but much of what we bring to a partnership is learned behavior. In this episode, we examine how the media we consume and the environments we grow up in dictate our expectations for modern dating. It is time to look at the blueprints we are using and ask if they are actually serving us. When we talk about love standards, we have to address the disconnect between what we say we want and the patterns we repeatedly fall into. Are we mimicking the relationships we observed growing up, or are we intentionally building something new? This conversation cuts through the noise to analyze how we can unlearn toxic habits and foster healthier connections. Subscribe to What Just Happened?? for weekly cultural breakdowns and drop your take in the comments. 00:00 – Love, Arguments & Making Up 00:59 – Kas & Lellies Are Engaged! 02:34 – Life Updates 05:13 – Learning to Let People Show Up for You 06:12 – The Birthday Surprise 08:02 – Career Wins & J. Cole 09:33 – Family, Culture & Meeting the Family 10:47 – What Is Love? 12:24 – Who Taught You How to Love? 13:25 – Losing a Mom & Learning Love From Dad 15:29 – The Love Kas Saw Growing Up 18:04 – Arguments, Sex & Toxic Love 20:43 – Watching Your Parents Date 21:32 – Searching for Love 22:51 – Did We Repeat What Our Parents Taught Us? 24:40 – Why Kas Thought Having Multiple Women Was Normal 25:38 – Lellies Admits She Used to Cheat 26:43 – The Good Things Our Parents Taught Us 30:37 – Watching Your Family Sacrifice 33:55 – A Father's Sacrifice 36:07 – Learning About Love From TV 37:31 – Unhealthy Love 40:22 – Are We Repeating the Same Patterns? 42:39 – The Argument That Was Really About Missing Each Other 44:10 – What Our Relationship Has Taught Us About Love 45:25 – Creating Your Own Rules for Love 47:40 – What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? 48:19 – Love Looks Different for Everybody