Heartbroken Therapist (Ep. 37)

What happens when a therapist's personal life collides with a client's? In this episode, we respond to a letter from a clinical intern whose client is navigating a painful breakup—just as she's unexpectedly experiencing one of her own. As the sessions become increasingly activating, she begins to question her competence, wrestle with feelings of imposter syndrome, and wonder whether she's too emotionally close to be an effective therapist. We explore the difference between empathy and countertransference, how to recognize when your own experiences are enriching the therapeutic relationship versus interfering with it, and why therapists don't have to be free from pain to provide meaningful care. Along the way, we discuss practical strategies for managing emotionally charged cases, making good use of supervision and personal therapy, and assessing when it's appropriate to continue working with a client—or when a referral may be the most ethical choice. Whether you're a therapist in training, a seasoned clinician, or simply curious about what happens behind the therapy room door, this conversation offers an honest look at the complexity of holding space for someone else while navigating your own healing. Ad: https://rovellotherapy.com/ Have a question? Email us at info@askatherapistpod.com or DM us on IG or TikTok at @askatherapist_pod Find Kenzie at therapy-with-kenzie.com or @therapywithkenzie Find Carli at carlikingtherapy.com or @carlikinglmft