Can an Avoidant Man Commit? OUR ENGAGEMENT STORY (Part 1)

Can an avoidant man commit? In Part 1 of our story, my husband Bjorn and I talk honestly about our engagement. It wasn't the picture-perfect proposal you see on social media, and it's the part of the story people rarely share. Our engagement was spontaneous. We knew we wanted a future together, but we'd never actually talked about getting engaged. What followed wasn't pure celebration. It brought up stress, fear and contraction, and we had to learn to hold that without pushing each other away. We talk about: ✨ Why our engagement didn't look like the Instagram version ✨ The uncertainty and fear that came up after the proposal ✨ Navigating an avoidant and anxious attachment pairing ✨ How journaling and coaching helped us move through fear loops ✨ Why feelings need processing, not pushing away or offloading onto your partner If you're dating an avoidant partner, or you recognise avoidant or anxious patterns in yourself, this one's for you. 📚 Book mentioned: The Game by Neil Strauss - https://www.worldofbooks.com/en-gb/pr... ✨Go Deeper with me and join Becoming Her When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to: •calm your anxiety •heal from the past •stop self-sabotaging patterns and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of you who receives from life, is magnetic to what you want, and feels whole within herself. Learn more: https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.... Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 0:39 Our engagement wasn't social media perfect 2:49 How Bjorn won Johanna over 6:18 Bjorn's doubts & asking her dad's blessing 8:16 The diamond in the sand 12:13 The proposal at a temple in Bali 14:40 Letting go of control & the home base question 17:46 From maiden to mother 20:52 One pinky toe out the door: trust & commitment 22:50 After the yes: surprise friends & a big fight 25:57 Avoidant patterns & journaling through fear loops 31:12 Bringing reality to the fear 33:05 Neil Strauss: The Game vs The Truth