Four Things to Stop Saying to Someone Who Left the Church

Has someone you love walked away from church or faith? When someone we care about stops attending church, it can be heartbreaking—but pushing them away with arguments, guilt, or backchannel gossip only builds bigger walls. In this video, we explore four harmful habits to stop right now if you want to keep the door open, along with two powerful actions to start today. Discover why winning a theological debate can cost you the relationship, why treating a loved one's faith as a public project drives them further away, and how the story of Daphrose and Cyprien Rugamba demonstrates the quiet power of steadfast, unconditional love. CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - Introduction 0:22 - Stop #1: Stop talking about their faith journey as a public project 1:50 - Stop #2: Stop arguing theology 2:56 - Stop #3: Stop making every visit about faith 3:57 - Stop #4: Stop using guilt (even gentle guilt) 5:07 - Start #1: Start praying regularly for your loved one 5:29 - Start #2: Start being the person they call when something is wrong #Faith #Christianity #Relationships #Deconstruction #Prayer #Grace