How to Stop COMPARING Yourself to Others and Create Your Own Success Metrics

Alan Weiss and O'Brien McMahon explore the foundations of self-worth and confidence on the People Business podcast. Known as a "rockstar" consultant, Alan Weiss is the author of over 60 books. He and O'Brien discuss his upcoming release "The Courage of Your Talents" and talks through the critical differences between self-esteem, confidence, ego, and efficacy. The conversation examines why so many people fail to trust their own judgment in an era of influencers, misinformation, and normative pressure, and why building internal metrics matters more than chasing external validation. Listen to this episode to learn: Why self-esteem is internal and constant while ego rises and falls based on external feedback How to create personal metrics instead of following comparison-driven goals that undermine mental health The practice of isolating negatives and generalizing positives rather than the reverse Why confidence comes from believing you can help others even when facing unfamiliar challenges What is true wealth Alan Weiss draws on his many years of success to offer practical insights for team leaders, people professionals, and driven team members who want to achieve more. Mentioned on the Show Alan Weiss is a prolific author, his latest is The Courage of Your Talent: https://a.co/d/022hIGzZ See all of Alan Weiss’ books here: https://alanweiss.com/store/books/ Alan’s website has many resources available, see them here: https://alanweiss.com/ Connect with Alan Weiss on LinkedIn:   / alanweissphd   Timestamps (00:00:00) - O'Brien McMahon welcomes super consultant Alan Weiss to People Business (00:03:12) - Esteem vs ego: what's the difference between an ego-based feeling about yourself and an esteem-based one? (00:05:09) - Are self-worth and self-esteem the same? (00:07:29) - Our worth is not determined by comparing to others (00:10:17) - Setting metrics for success (00:12:55) - How do we deal with competition in the market? (00:22:20) - How do we establish our sense of identity? (00:26:14) - How do we shape our self-confidence? (00:35:32) - How do we deal with fear? (00:39:57) - Free resources from Alan Weiss #humanresources #AlanWeiss #PeopleBusinessPodcast