I Spent Years Wanting My Husband to Change Then I Realized I Was Part of the Problem

I spent years believing certain things in our marriage would get better if Jake would simply change. But one of the hardest lessons I learned after 34 years of marriage was realizing that I had things to learn and change too. Jake came into our marriage as a widower who had already been married for 12 years. I came in as a single mother of two teenage sons who had never been married. We brought different histories, habits, expectations and ways of living into one home. For years, I sometimes confused “different” with “wrong.” In this video, I’m sharing what happened when I stopped trying to change my husband and started examining the part I was playing in our marriage too. This isn’t about taking responsibility for another person’s harmful behavior. It’s about the ordinary work of marriage: communication, expectations, understanding, grace, growth and learning how to build one life out of two very different people. After 34 years of marriage and 40 years with the same man, I’m still learning. Donna Still Standing With Donna This is a season, not a sentence. #MarriageAdvice #MarriageAfter30Years #ChristianMarriage #MarriageCommunication #StillStandingWithDonna