Alex: I'm Not Out Yet | First Dates Ireland | First Dates Ireland | S9 E9

Alex's date takes a turn when he admits he isn't out yet, opening a heartfelt talk about identity, family and courage inside the First Dates Ireland restaurant. In an emotional standout moment, Alex shares that, while living in Ireland, he still isn't out to much of his family due to cultural pressures and relatives in Latvia. His date listens without judgment as they unpack how hard it is to feel truly seen when you cannot be open, and how community can help. It's a brave, vulnerable exchange that turns a first meeting into a meaningful conversation about coming out, identity and belonging. Elsewhere, stylish 53-year-old Tom, a self-confessed 23-year-old at heart, meets Amy. Between stories of divorce, grown-up kids and even granddaughters, they bond over optimism, blended families and his love of dancing. After some old-school debate about going Dutch, the spark holds strong and Tom lines up a jive class for date two. Philosopher-adventurer Colum arrives sober with sparkling water and a life rebuilt through hiking, jiu-jitsu and wellness. He opens up about honoring his late dad and marking a 10-year sobriety medallion with a trek to Everest Base Camp. With candid conversationalist Maria, the chat flows deep on values and balance, though they ultimately choose not to pursue romance. Down the country, farmer-teacher-carpenter Craig pairs with Chloe from Cavan, swapping milking-parlour banter, family roots and a shared appetite for adventure. From jive moves to waterfall hikes, these two say yes to a second date. Plus, Mateo and the team welcome a new wave of hopefuls trading worst-date horror stories, ghosting confessions and bold icebreakers. Who knew a first date could cover identity, Everest and the perfect jive step? #FirstDatesIreland #FirstDates #ComingOut #LGBTQ #RealityTV #DatingShow #Ireland