Will They Ever Learn to Be Okay Without Me? How to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Separate From You

Your PDA, autistic child can't let you out of the room, not even to go to the bathroom. Here's what's actually happening inside them, and what helped. For a long stretch of my son's burnout I sat beside him in our family room for hours a day, barely moving, holding my pee, because every time my attention left him his anxiety rose. We still have holes in our doors from that time. And underneath it all was the question I know you're carrying too. Am I giving too much? And will they ever learn? In Part 3 of this four-part series I go through: • The seven reasons your PDA, autistic child genuinely needs this much from you, including a lower threat threshold, monotropism, and autonomy as a survival need rather than a preference. • What the research actually says about responsiveness, so you can stop carrying the word coddling. • The three things that can keep your child stuck even when you accommodate well: anxiety, OCD, and the predictive brain. • How to tell whether this is your child, with three questions to ask yourself. • The dance between accommodating and gently challenging, in five steps. Exactly what I did with my son, starting with the bathroom and then leaving the house, with the real timeline. How long this takes, honestly. This is for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids who can't separate from them. Read the full written version, with the research sources: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/pda-a... Start with Part 1: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/when-... And I have three free guides, on meltdown patterns, on why you react even when you know better, and on the grief nobody names: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guide...