2.4 Raising Kids Who Share the Mental Load (with Sam Kelly)

Sick of feeling like the only one in your home who notices or does anything? Carrying the whole mental load leaves you tapped out and resentful, but getting your neurodivergent or "strong-willed" kid to share any of it can feel impossible. This week, I'm talking with Sam Kelly about her "Notice and Do" approach to raising kids who understand and share the mental and physical load, at a pace that works for them. You'll hear: • What "notice and do" means, and why noticing is its own skill to teach • How teaching kids about the mental load can break the cycle of moms carrying it all, and raise kids who become equal partners • Simple first steps, and smaller starting points for kids who need a slower pace • What to do with the resentment when you’re still doing almost everything RELATED RESOURCES: ⭐️ Sam's book: "Notice and Do: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load" (https://link.amazon/B05BbPsE8) ⭐️ Sam's audio course: Little Cycle Breakers (https://drgila--samkelly.thrivecart.c...) ⭐️ Dr. Gila's Free Short Meditation for Single Parents (https://go.drgilaparenting.com/SP_med...) ABOUT SAM KELLY Sam Kelly is a mental health professional and parenting coach. She teaches busy, overwhelmed moms how to break the cycle of motherhood burnout and share the mental load of managing a home with the whole family by empowering kids to be proactive household contributors. Her first book, Notice and Do, releases today, October 20th. 👉 Website: hellosamkelly.com (https://hellosamkelly.com) 👉 IG (  / samkelly_world  ) 👉 Free resource: Notice & Do Free Guide (https://samkelly.myflodesk.com/vvnkiw...) ＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿ ❤️ Enrollment is open for Coaching Circles! Only 3 spots per Circle. 👉 parentingwithconnection.com/circles (https://drgilaparenting.com/circles) ❤️ FREE guide: Tantrums, & Meltdowns, & Rages...Oh My! The single parent's guide to understanding challenging behaviors (https://go.drgilaparenting.com/pod_sp...) ＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿ CONNECT WITH DR. GILA 👉 Join the newsletter (https://go.drgilaparenting.com/pod_email) for practical parenting tips and a hefty dose of empathy, delivered straight to your inbox. 🔗 Website: www.parentingwithconnection.com (https://www.drgilaparenting.com/) ✉️ E-mail: hello@drgilaparenting.com ＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿ *Affiliate disclaimer: This episode may contain affiliate links, meaning we receive a financial benefit if you decide to buy something, at no extra cost to you. We only share products and services we genuinely believe will help you on your parenting journey. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.* ©️ 2026 Dr. Gila Parenting | All rights reserved DISCLAIMER: All episodes of Single-Parenting with Connection (NOT Perfection) are for educational and informational purposes only. Although Dr. Gila is a licensed psychologist and certified coach, this podcast and the information discussed within the podcast do not constitute therapy, counseling, coaching, or other professional service, and are not a substitute for professional services including medical or psychological advice. Moreover, the views expressed on the podcast are those of the host and guests. We make no representations or warranties regarding the accuracy, completeness, or applicability of the content. Any use of this intellectual property owned by Dr. Gila Parenting (DBA) may not be used in connection with the sale or distribution of any content (free or paid, written or verbal), product, and/or service by you without prior written consent from Dr. Gila Parenting (DBA).