Communication in Disregulation

Step 1: Recognize what parts of you come out when you are stressed, what key traits come out? Do you get super stressed busy bee do all the things? Do you isolate and hide? Do you put up walls? Do you end up trapped in comparison and victim feelings? Blame Step 2: Don't try to fight it, acknowledge it, sit with it. Be honest with your partner, share that this isn't them, it is something you are facing. Don't logic yourself      Use I feel language, instead of "you did this"Share link to food coloring video Step 3 It's a them thing (put yourself in check). Give them a minute to feel what they feel Step 4: Take a moment...tell your partner that you are taking a moment, set a time to check back in Step 5: Touch can be helpful Step 6: Put the problem out front, instead of blaming the other person, or making it an issue between the two of you, make it a thing you solve together, look at it in 3D, gain perspective. Thoughtfully go to others for additional perspective Clair Canfield Ted Talk:    • The beauty of conflict | Clair Canfield | ...