"What Looked Like a Compliment Was Actually Wounding Me" ft. Prophet Sharlette Reid | SBP EP.013

"I didn't realise that what seemed like a compliment was actually wounding me." For the first time on The Shepherd's Bench, Kofi Dartey and Randolph Adjei are joined by a guest: Prophet Sharlette Reid. What follows is one of the most honest conversations we've had, about what it costs to be a woman carrying a prophetic calling, where women go when there's nobody to disciple them, and the words spoken over her that she mistook for affirmation. In this episode: — A father who raised his daughter and his sons the same — "It was only when I came into church that I found the gap" — Why so many women condense themselves to the spaces already available — The same names, the same voices: why conferences recycle — The commission requires multiplying, not one name, one personality, one calling — Why male-on-male discipleship happens naturally, and what that leaves women with — The proximity problem: "I can't speak to him too long, it looks like more than it is" — More women in church than men. So where are the women leaders? — It has to transcend an event, building systems, not moments — "You need someone who can love you for who you are, not what you do" — A prayer for the woman who thought she had to change to be loved Timestamps 0:00 A first for the bench 2:40 Introducing Prophet Sharlette Reid 7:00 Her journey into the prophetic 12:25 A father who treated his daughter the same 13:00 "I didn't know if I was meant to be a female prophet" 14:20 Why conferences recycle the same voices 16:00 The commission requires multiplying 18:40 Why men disciple men 19:30 The proximity problem 20:40 More women in church — so where are the leaders? 25:00 Systems, not events ~35:00 Carrying the weight of representation ~45:00 The cost of the calling 58:00 The compliment that was a wound 1:00:00 A word to the woman who had to change _____ The Shepherd's Bench is hosted by ‪@RandolphAdjei‬ & ‪@kofi_dartey‬ and brought to you by ‪@byKACstudios‬ Subscribe for new episodes every 2 weeks. Follow us on Instagram & TikTok: @shepherdsbenchpod