When Betrayers Lose This After an Affair, Healing Gets Harder

After an affair, so much of the focus is understandably on the pain of the betrayed. But what is happening inside the betrayer can have a profound impact on whether a couple is able to heal. In this video, I’m pulling the lens back and sharing something I see over and over in my work with couples. There is something betrayers can lose after an affair that makes the healing process much more difficult for both partners. We’re talking about shame, guilt, accountability, and why the betrayer’s ability to keep moving forward matters more than you might think. If you are trying to heal your relationship after an affair, this is a perspective I believe both the betrayed and the betrayer need to understand.