Burnout, Boundaries & Caring Too Much w/ Bury Tomorrow

Dani Winter-Bates from Bury Tomorrow joins me for episode two of Fact & Feelings to talk about burnout, boundaries, vulnerability, mental health and what happens when caring for everybody else starts costing you. The conversation begins with one fact: Burnout doesn't just come from working too much. It can come from carrying too much for too long. I ask Dani one question: You've spent years looking after other people whilst balancing an incredible music career. How do you know when you're looking after everybody else more than you're looking after yourself? From there, Dani speaks openly about his own experiences with anxiety, OCD, depression and eating disorders, and how those experiences eventually led him towards wanting to help other people. IN THIS EPISODE: • Burnout from carrying too much for too long • Dani’s experiences with anxiety, OCD and depression • Boundaries, energy and knowing when to step back • Building a support network and recognising changes in others • What being a safe space really means • Masculinity, masking and vulnerability • Why supporting someone does not mean fixing them -- WHAT IS FACT & FEELINGS? One mental health fact. An honest question. Then the floor is theirs. There is no script, and guests are not here to give advice or pretend to have all the answers. The idea is simply to show that two people can sit down and have an honest conversation about mental health, even without knowing everything about each other. If one of these conversations makes somebody else's next conversation a little easier, then it has done its job. -- ABOUT FOR YOUNGER YOU Fact & Feelings is part of For Younger You, a mental health project I started after losing a friend to suicide in 2021. Since then, I have spoken to more than 30,000 students through school talks covering suicide awareness, cyberbullying and wellbeing. For Younger You exists to support vulnerable young people, worried parents and anybody who might be struggling, through honest conversations, school talks and accessible mental health resources. -- SUPPORT FOR YOUNGER YOU All of our mental health resources, including PDF and audio versions, are available through Patreon. Anything designed to help somebody who is struggling will never be put behind a paywall. If you would like to support the work and help us continue making these conversations and getting back into schools: patreon.com/foryoungeryou Follow For Younger You Instagram: @foryoungeryou TikTok: @foryoungeryou -- 00:00 Welcome to Fact & Feelings 02:34 The fact and Dani’s question 03:05 Dani’s own mental health journey 06:00 When helping others becomes too much 08:15 Boundaries, energy and burnout 10:30 Building your support network 13:55 What being a safe space really means 17:30 Masculinity, masking and vulnerability 18:30 Why your job isn’t to fix someone 31:29 The positive memories Dani goes back to -- For Younger You The Conversations We Needed. #DaniWinterBates #BuryTomorrow #FactAndFeelings #MentalHealth #Burnout #MentalHealthAwareness #ForYoungerYou