Why You Read People So Well (And Why It Never Makes You Safe)

Why You Read People So Well (And Why It Never Makes You Safe) In this video, we break down the psychology of reading people, using Kahneman and Klein's 2009 paper on when intuition can be trusted, Bond and DePaulo's meta-analyses of deception accuracy across 24,000 people, DePaulo's finding that confidence and accuracy correlate at almost zero, and Kenneth Dodge's research on hostile attribution bias. You are not too sensitive. You built a sophisticated instrument in a house where the alarms had to be that sensitive. What it never had was a calibration - because an unpredictable environment fails both conditions under which intuition can be learned, no matter how many decades you practise. Then five things that actually work: separate the signal from the story, grade your reads, ask the question out loud, write down the false alarms, and name the arithmetic you're running. Which of the five do you skip the most? Tell me in the comments. I read every one of them. #psychology #hypervigilance #relationships #midlife #selfawareness #overthinking #psychvis --- Research referenced: Kahneman, D., & Klein, G. (2009). Conditions for intuitive expertise: A failure to disagree. American Psychologist, 64(6), 515–526. Bond, C. F., & DePaulo, B. M. (2006). Accuracy of deception judgments. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 10(3), 214–234. Bond, C. F., & DePaulo, B. M. (2008). Individual differences in judging deception. Psychological Bulletin, 134(4), 477–492. DePaulo, B. M., et al. (1997). The accuracy-confidence correlation in the detection of deception. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 1(4), 346–357. Dodge, K. A. (1980). Social cognition and children's aggressive behavior. Child Development, 51(1), 162–170. Tuente, S. K., Bogaerts, S., & Veling, W. (2019). Hostile attribution bias and aggression in adults. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 46, 66–81. --- Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute professional psychological or medical advice. If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional.