Who Are You Outside Your Business?

Take away the business. Take away the money, the titles, what you provide for your family. Just for a second. What's left? That question made me uncomfortable when I first sat with it, which is probably why it's worth asking. Pete McLean coaches successful men for a living, and he's honest that he's in the middle of this himself rather than talking from the other side. His line that stopped me: his success has repeatedly felt like a prison, and the thing people praise him for is the very thing he can't appreciate. We get into why there's no off switch and what to do instead. The ten days his coach made him take off training, and what came out of it. And why the goal was never to lower the pressure. This episode covers burnout, pressure and men's mental health openly. If any of it hits close to home, talk to someone. A mate, your GP, or Lifeline on 13 11 14. In this episode: -Who am I outside my business, and why the question is uncomfortable -Why success feels empty, and why enough is never enough -High performer burnout that isn't about working too many hours -Working from unworthiness, and suffering to feel you deserve it -Why the off switch is a myth, and the dials concept instead -Nervous system regulation, and why Pete thinks the industry has it backwards -Why family starts to feel like more work than the business -The Third Space, and the tradies who'd worked it out without naming it -Ten days off training, and what his body did with it -Hustle culture as performance, and the gap between posting it and living it -Men's mental health, and why giving constantly makes receiving hard -Personal development for men, and where to actually start Resources mentioned: The Third Space by Dr Adam Fraser https://dradamfraser.com/shop-content... Connect with Pete: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petejmclean... Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5TogkwP... Connect with Tim: Instagram: @timsayce Linkedin:   / tim-sayce-658a2616b   Website: https://kaikonstruct.com.au/about/tim... 00:00 Take away the business. What's left? 01:41 Why success feels like a prison 04:55 Working from unworthiness 10:30 The church, and performing for validation 14:05 Training as control 16:14 When it stops feeling worth it 18:20 A shell of a man 20:28 The off switch is a myth 22:03 Two nervous systems 23:35 The calendar that made another owner go white 24:38 The Third Space 28:23 How far forward can you actually see? 33:42 Ten days off training 38:23 What came out of it 45:04 Giving, receiving and guilt 47:15 Hustle culture as performance 56:44 Where to actually start 01:09:08 The rubber band Foundations & Futures is for ambitious business owners who want to build a successful business and use it as the vehicle to create long-term family wealth, freedom and opportunity. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe so you don't miss one.