If Your Wife Won’t Wear the Collar, That Means You Already Are

In this episode we’re joined by ‪@joshualisec‬ to talk about what he actually learned ghostwriting for divorce attorneys, reviewing hundreds of cases, and writing the books most people never realize he touched. Josh walks through why modern marriage functions like a group project with co-CEOs (the arrangement companies use when they want blame spread and no one in charge), how the Peter Principle explains the “she was a great girlfriend and then everything changed” pattern, and why the reward structure of no-fault divorce, alimony, and kids-as-leverage predicts the outcomes we keep seeing. We get into the mental point of origin and the orbit problem (why the person willing to be worse holds the power), the girl-dad pipeline that produces wives who’ve never met a real consequence, why a lot of popular “servant leader” marriage advice puts husbands in permanent orbit with none of the old protections and none of the new ones, and what enforcing the actual contract you signed looks like in practice. He also covers why stay-at-home resentment shows up so often in the cases, why prenups frequently fail to protect what gets built during the marriage, the claim that more feminism eventually undoes the parts that only hurt men, and the one dynamic he says still creates masculine-feminine polarity without pretending the civil contract is a church vow. If this conversation hits home, do us a favor and like + share it because these discussions matter to building marriages that don’t collapse under their own incentives. And if you’re not already following ‪@joshualisec‬, make sure you give him a follow too. #marriage #marriagedynamics #divorce