Your Child Is Changing! Here's How YOU Must Change Too | Ustadh AbdulRahman Hassan

Is your child suddenly refusing to listen, answering back, or questioning everything you say? Have they gone from following you everywhere to demanding independence, privacy, and the freedom to make their own decisions? Many Muslim parents struggle when their once playful child begins changing before their eyes. But is it just puberty, or does YOUR parenting approach need to change too? Before you become stricter, raise your voice, or try to control every decision, watch this important discussion. Welcome back to The Muslim Stand. Following our previous video on the first seven years of childhood, we are honoured to feature Ustadh AbdurRahman Hassan as he explores the second seven years, from ages 8 to 14. This is a crucial stage of Islamic parenting and Tarbiyah, when children need more than freedom to play. They need discipline, education, healthy routines, religious guidance, and parents who understand their growing independence. Here is what many parents overlook: your child is growing up, so your parenting style must grow with them. Between 8 and 14, children begin forming their own opinions, testing boundaries, and wanting to make choices for themselves. They may question instructions or resist being told what to do. Does that automatically mean your child is naughty or disobedient? And how do you give them independence without abandoning your responsibility to guide them? Ustadh AbdurRahman Hassan explains why parents must learn to become mentors, not simply people who issue instructions. Instead of controlling every choice, help children think, understand consequences, and learn from their mistakes. The aim is not to produce children who behave only when watched, but young Muslims who develop sound judgement, self-discipline, and responsibility even when their parents are not present. But what if one parent is building good habits while the other keeps undoing them? You cannot build a wall if someone else is constantly removing the bricks. Raising children requires teamwork. Mothers and fathers need to support one another, communicate clearly, and establish consistent boundaries rather than sending conflicting messages. How can a child learn discipline if the adults guiding them are pulling in opposite directions? This stage is also when Salah, Islamic education, reading, and daily routine become increasingly important. Children should be prepared to establish their prayers before puberty, when Salah becomes obligatory. But what if your child refuses to pray, loses interest in learning the Quran, or argues whenever you remind them? How can you nurture genuine love for Allah and the Deen while setting clear expectations? Then comes PUBERTY: physical changes, stronger emotions, growing self-consciousness, new friendships, and a desire for privacy. As children approach adolescence, they face challenges involving identity, peer pressure, modesty, purification, and religious accountability. How do you prepare your son or daughter for these changes without embarrassment or fear? And how do you build enough trust that they come to YOU with difficult questions? Whether you are dealing with a child who will not listen, struggling with screen time, worried about Salah, navigating puberty, or disagreeing with your spouse about discipline, this lecture offers valuable guidance. It is essential viewing for Muslim parents, future parents, teachers, and anyone helping to raise the next generation. Are we raising children who obey out of fear, or young Muslims who understand their faith and can make good choices for themselves? Watch, reflect, and share this discussion with another parent who needs to hear it. Subscribe to The Muslim Stand for more Islamic lectures and practical parenting advice. LIKE the video, SHARE it with family and friends, and tell us in the comments: what is the biggest challenge of parenting children aged 8 to 14? #IslamicParenting #UstadhAbdurRahmanHassan #TheMuslimStand #Tarbiyah #MuslimParenting #ChildDiscipline #PubertyInIslam #MuslimParents #Salah #RaisingMuslimChildren #ParentingInIslam #MuslimTeenagers #IslamicEducation #ParentingTips #QuranAndSunnah