Your Spouse Isn't the Problem. Here's What Is.

Your Spouse Isn't the Problem. Here's What Is. "If he would just talk to me." "If she would just stop criticizing." If you've ever thought your marriage would be fine once your spouse finally changed, this video is for you. Andy Uhlig, a wedding officiant and relationship coach with The Union Blueprint, tells the story of Brian and Michelle, a fictional couple based on several real couples. After sixteen years, three kids and a busy life together, each of them was sure the other one was the problem. Michelle felt invisible. Brian felt like nothing he did was ever good enough. Both of them were partly right, and both were stuck. You'll see the three things Michelle tried to get Brian to change: hinting and reminding, the ultimatum, and finally giving up and quietly taking over as the "designated apologizer." Each one made sense, and each one made the distance worse. Andy explains why that happens, and what was really going on between them: not two separate problems, but one pattern. A dance where every step one partner takes sets off the other's. We'll also look at why a small moment can set off a huge reaction ("my reaction is a nine, what happened was a two"), how the family you grew up in shows up in your marriage, and why your brain keeps collecting proof that your spouse is the problem while it misses everything that doesn't fit. This isn't a how-to video. It's an invitation to see your marriage differently. Your spouse isn't the villain, and neither are you. The pattern is the problem, and patterns can change. If something here made you see your relationship a little differently, book a free 15-minute call with Andy. It's not a sales call and there's nothing to buy. It's just a real conversation about your situation. You can come alone, and your spouse doesn't need to be on board for you to start. **Click Below To Book Your Free 15 Minute Call: https://linktwin.co/svomzd **Click Below To Join Our Free Skool Community To Get The Free Marriage Drift Checklist & Bonus Training On How To Build & Maintain Your Marriage Structure Nobody Taught You: https://linktwin.co/tmvyky Please note: This video covers normal, everyday marriage struggles. If there is abuse in your relationship or you feel unsafe, please contact a licensed professional or a crisis line. If this helped you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who keeps saying, "If they would just change."