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What if... It’s not the black belt. It’s not winning Worlds. It’s not the perfect technique. It might not even be the journey. It’s all about the people you get to do jiu jitsu with. But there’s another side to community. The wrong gym, wrong coach, or wrong group of people can make you start to hate something you once loved. And once a community becomes valuable, there will always be people who want to exploit it. This episode is about finding your people, appreciating them while you have them, and protecting the community you’re lucky enough to be part of. 👇 Who is someone Jiu-Jitsu brought into your life that you’d still be friends with even if neither of you trained anymore? Subscribe for more Jiu-Jitsu philosophy, competition stories, training advice, BJJ culture, and questionable opinions from the I Suck at Jiu-Jitsu Show. Check at our new Skool Jiu Jitsu Curriculum: https://www.skool.com/headnod Free Mental Models Course "Jiu Jitsu for imbeciles" : bjjmentalmodels.com/isuck 00:00 What Jiu-Jitsu Is ACTUALLY About 03:25 It Took Me 18 Years to Learn This 06:49 The Friend Who Changed My Jiu-Jitsu 10:52 The Best Years of Competition 12:28 Is Catalina Island Actually Japan? 18:43 Jiu-Jitsu’s Greatest Gift 19:28 The Wrong Gym Can Make You Hate Jiu-Jitsu 25:20 The Friend Who Bet on Me 29:03 You Can’t Buy a 10-Year Friendship 34:05 How to Know If You Found the Right Gym 38:18 Ponzi Schemes, Influencers & Fake Community 46:53 Protect Your Jiu-Jitsu Community 50:20 Your Best Friends Might Be on the Mat 53:16 Appreciate Your Training Partners 54:18 Goal vs. Journey vs. Community