How to Improve Your Marriage: 6 Relationship Behaviors That Can Predict Divorce

You can't control your partner—but you can change your part in the relationship. What if improving your marriage starts with looking inward instead of trying to change your spouse? In this episode of ChosenSA, Jirzia Blackman joins the conversation to discuss relationship healing, healthy communication, and how understanding our own responses can transform the way we connect with others. Drawing on research from Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, Jirzia explores how everyday communication patterns, emotional responses, and unresolved behaviors can affect a couple's relationship. IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS: Why you can only control your own actions and responses How personal growth can influence your marriage The connection between mental health, the nervous system, and communication The Gottmans' research on relationship stability and divorce predictors The six relationship behaviors discussed in the episode: Harsh startups The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Flooding Body language Failed repair attempts Negative rewriting of the past Why research-based relationship tools can help couples understand their patterns without assuming something is wrong with them How a holistic approach can support emotional, physical, and relational wellness Jirzia shares a meaningful lesson from her own marriage: when she began working on herself, she noticed changes in her relationship—but she couldn't control her husband's choices. Real growth begins when we recognize the part we can change. The takeaway? You don't have to be perfect to build a healthier relationship. You can start by understanding yourself, changing your responses, and learning new ways to communicate. 🎙️ Watch the full conversation on ChosenSA. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who wants to build healthier relationships. Subscribe for more conversations about faith, wellness, relationships, and personal growth. #jirziablackman, #marriageadvice, #relationshipadvice, #healthyrelationships, #couplescommunication, #marriagehealing, #authenticbeyondthecouch