She Wants Another Baby. He’s Getting a Vasectomy Behind Her Back | The 3L's Podcast Ep 52

What happens when one person wants another baby and the other is completely done? In this episode of the 3L Podcast, Iman and Mimi open up about one of the hardest periods in their marriage. After three children, Mimi felt deeply convinced their family was not complete. Iman felt the opposite. With financial pressure, redundancy, a growing business and the responsibility of providing for their existing children, another baby felt like a risk he did not want to take. They share how the disagreement created resentment, distance and feelings of betrayal. They also reflect on what happened after their fourth child arrived, including the impact motherhood had on Mimi’s identity and her experience with what she now believes was postpartum depression. Then comes this week’s dilemma. A mother of two secretly hopes for another baby, despite her husband repeatedly saying he is done. After two years of hiding her true feelings, she finds out he has booked a vasectomy without telling her. His appointment is three weeks away. Is he wrong for making a permanent decision without involving his wife? Or did she lose her right to feel betrayed after staying silent for two years? Main points: • What happens when couples disagree about having more children? • Does a father have an equal say in deciding when the family is complete? • The financial pressure behind having more children • Resentment, emotional pressure and communication in marriage • Motherhood, identity and postpartum depression • Should permanent contraception ever be a personal decision in marriage? • When does compromise become resentment? • Is wanting another child enough reason to reconsider a marriage? Who do you think is wrong in this dilemma? Let us know in the comments. 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast... Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7lo...