What Are You Willing to Lose? Patrice Washington on Divorce, Faith & Choosing Herself

What would you be willing to lose to have everything you believe God has called you to? For Patrice Washington, that one question — asked by a coach as she approached 40 — brought a truth to the surface she’d been carrying for years. In this honest, tender conversation with Dr. Stacii Jae Johnson, Patrice opens up about the end of her marriage of more than 15 years, why so many accomplished women try to love someone into change, the vows she wrote to herself, and why she’s embracing a season of being single by choice. It’s real, it’s full of sisterly love — and yes, Dr. Stacii lovingly pushes back. In this episode: • The question that stopped Patrice in her tracks • “Nothing changed about him. I just learned to love myself more.” • Why it’s not always low self-esteem that keeps us staying • Why alignment takes more than feelings • Living from option, not obligation • Choosing yourself after 30 years of centering relationships • Watching the next generation let her yes be her yes Subscribe to A Different Kinda Woman for honest conversations about love, healing and becoming. Share this with a woman who needs permission to choose herself. #ADifferentKindaWoman #PatriceWashington #SingleByChoice #ChooseYourself #healingafterdivorce 00:00 Cold open 01:37 Welcome, Patrice Washington 02:09 “Shake the table” & “Go get your people” 03:14 Where her heart radically transformed 03:59 The coach’s question that changed everything 05:06 “Nothing changed about him” 06:47 When love becomes familiar 07:45 Growing up where no one was married 08:17 When church said pray harder 09:16 Journals & trying to pray him into it 09:48 Not low self-esteem — overconfidence 10:32 High-achieving women & control 11:41 Her picture of a successful marriage 13:15 Love after divorce: a two-year relationship 14:22 Alignment needs infrastructure 15:13 The vows she wrote to herself 17:58 We evolve: option, not obligation 18:53 Collaborate, don’t compromise 24:03 Single by choice 24:48 Learning she’s capable 26:20 Dating herself 27:19 Stacii’s loving pushback 30:05 “I received that” 31:49 Not closed off to love 33:11 Where she finds joy today 34:01 Her daughter’s yes and no 37:03 A woman willing to lose 37:23 Taking care of self first 38:26 Dr. Stacii’s takeaway