Why I Don't Believe in the “Women Supporting Women” Narrative

What does “women supporting women” really mean? And does support mean standing by someone no matter what? In this episode of Dear Dr. Tee Podcast, I sit down with Ms. Damilola Emiola, a medical physicist and fashion designer, for a conversation that challenges some of the ideas we often accept without questioning. Ms. Emiola shares why she doesn't believe in the popular “women supporting women” narrative, and why she believes in human supporting human, with accountability intact. We also talk about the boy child and girl child, what happens when we focus on raising girls without equally nurturing boys, and how many first daughters and women are taught to become valuable to everyone else while forgetting to build a life for themselves. From learning to fail forward as a shy young woman, to setting boundaries with family and money, to knowing when to stop pouring from an empty cup, this conversation goes far beyond gender. This is not about choosing sides. It's about asking better questions. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, family expectations, saying no, setting financial boundaries, or constantly putting everyone else before yourself, there's something in this conversation for you. In this episode: 00:00 Staying in the corner keeps you hidden 00:26 Do women really support women? 00:44 On this episode — women, girl child, boy child 01:09 “I hate the fact we have a lot of girl child stuff” 01:31 Welcome to Dear Dr. Tee — Faith, Love & Life 01:51 Meet Emiola Damilola Joy 02:30 Who she is — medical physicist, fashion designer 03:40 Learning to fail forward as a shy girl 07:19 Shy, timid, always in the corner 08:16 People using me to shine with no credit 09:17 Popular opinions on gender you disagree with? 09:41 Why too much girl child focus hurts without boy child balance 13:08 Trained to be valuable to others, not herself 16:16 Be selfish in a good way & set boundaries 18:04 Salary example — 50% to family, 20% transport, 20% to survive 19:13 Solution — auto-save, budget, live with reactions 21:19 You can't pour from an empty cup — choose yourself first 22:27 Women supporting women — what does it mean? 22:50 “I don't believe in women supporting women, I believe in human supporting human” 28:11 Women supporting women and accountability 32:00 How society raises the boy child vs girl child 34:24 Final word — humanity first, support accountable women 35:36 Thanks for watching — see you next time What do you think? Can women support women without supporting everything a woman does? And where should we draw the line between support and accountability? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section. If you enjoyed this conversation, kindly hit the subscribe button.    / @deardrteepodcast   #WomenSupportingWomen #GenderEquality #WomenEmpowerment