What Is Floodlighting And Am I Guilty Of Doing It? | The Hook Up Podcast

Ever been on a date where someone trauma dumps their breakups, difficult childhood or mental health struggles all before your entrée arrives? You might’ve been floodlighted. We hear your experiences of oversharing to test the waters, speed up intimacy, or filter out people who can’t ‘handle’ your shit - and whether this kind of radical honesty is actually just manipulative. SHOW NOTES: Floodlighting explained by a psychologist: https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversm... Oversharing on social media: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1... 00:00 – intro 04:38 – what is floodlighting? 09:30 – has someone ever floodlighted you? 15:09 – have you ever floodlighted someone? 17:50 – is it a dangerous litmus test? 20:05 – queer trauma bonding 24:51 – floodlighting to speedrun intimacy 26:38 – matching vulnerability 30:06 – study on social media and oversharing 35:00 – some people love floodlighting 37:20 – is it ever okay to floodlight? The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.