The Psychology of People Pleasing (Why You Can't Say NO)

Most people view being "agreeable" as a personality trait. But evolutionary psychology and trauma research show that chronic people-pleasing is often a survival mechanism, a process known as "self-silencing" and the "fawn response." In this video, break down Mark Leary’s landmark 1995 study on the sociometer theory of self-esteem, Dana Jack’s groundbreaking 1991/1992 research on how swallowing anger predicts depression, and Pete Walker’s work on childhood trauma and the fawn response. #peoplepleasing #fawnresponse #psychology #mentalhealth #selfsilencing #animation ------------------------------------------------------------------- SOURCES & RESEARCH: • Leary, M. R., Tambor, E. S., Terdal, S. K., & Downs, D. L. (1995). Self-esteem as an interpersonal monitor: The sociometer index. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 68(3), 518–530. • Jack, D. C. (1991). Silencing the Self: Women and Depression. Harvard University Press. • Walker, P. (2013). Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Azure Coyote Publishing. -------------------------------------------------------------------