Am I Bisexual? Am I Asexual? Why These Are Not The Most Helpful Questions

I can easily understand why someone would want a simple answer to "what's my sexual orientation or identity?" Many therapists say that labels such as "bisexual," "asexual," and "demisexual" give people permission to (finally) be who they are. But I believe they're an inefficient route to self-acceptance—and are ultimately more limiting than freeing. People don't need an identity to justify their preferences, or to accept that what they do or want is "normal." I'd rather people decide that "normal" is irrelevant. That would be real growth.