Why Narcissists Seem Normal Sometimes (But Are Anything But)

Why does your narcissistic or borderline ex suddenly seem... normal? Did they finally change? Or, is just another stage of the abuse cycle? (It's the abuse cycle.) In this video, Dr. Tara J. Palmatier explains why temporary periods of calm, kindness, or cooperation are often mistaken for genuine change. Learn why narcissists, borderlines, and other high-conflict personalities may appear "normal" for a time, what these lulls in abusive behavior really mean, and why confusing the absence of abuse with recovery can keep you trapped in a trauma bond. ABOUT THIS CHANNEL Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist with nearly two decades of experience and over 31,000 direct clinical hours working with men (and women) in high-conflict relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, and psychopathic partners and exes. Her work focuses on pattern recognition, systems dynamics, and exit strategy—not pop psychology or influencer fluff. Subscribe for more videos on narcissistic abuse, borderline personality, false abuse allegations, high-conflict divorce, family court, custody disputes, parental alienation, codependency, and relational trauma. Hypes are most appreciated! WORKING WITH DR. PALMATIER Dr. Palmatier works with clients all over the world via video and telephone. Sessions cover individual therapy, couples work, divorce strategy, custody consulting, parallel parenting, attorney collaboration, family of origin issues, adult children of narcissists and borderlines, codependency, and relational trauma. SCHEDULE A SESSION Email: shrink4men@gmail.com or shrink4men@protonmail.com CONNECT Website: http://www.shrink4men.com Facebook:   / shrink4men   Twitter:   / shrink4men   Instagram:   / shrink4men   Threads: https://www.threads.net/@shrink4men BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/shrink4men.b...